Greetings, & hope you had a Happy Thanksgiving!
For this post I had planned some long-winded analytical discussion about giving yourself permission to be where you are. More about that next time.
But as I was trying to write it, something unexpected happened. I came across this wonderful song. I listened to it, then listened again, and again. And around the third time, something happened. I noticed my feet were tapping. My whole body felt as if it were humming happily along.
I surprised myself by realizing I was happy in the Now, totally fine with everything the way it was at that moment. I forgot to be anxious. I forgot to worry. And I didn’t need to take a pill, work any thoughts, dissolve anything, analyze anything! I just had to let myself be lifted up by the JOY.
I have noticed music can make me feel unreasonably, ridiculously good sometimes, in spite of my best efforts. Martha Beck said that poetry and music are unique in being able to engage both the left and right sides of the brain. Maybe that’s why it can help us into the relaxed Flow state, or happy wordlessness.
I am wishing the same for you, but I’m not going to ruin the feeling by talking about it too much! And btw, I would LOVE to hear about your favorite Happy-in-the-Moment songs in the comments.
Hello, and welcome to my coaching blog!
I’ve spent the last 5 or so years in what felt like an endless search for my true calling in life, work that I would really LOVE, or at least wouldn’t hate quite so much. And along the way I’ve cycled through dozens of ideas at least: Nurse Anesthetist. Physical Therapist. Consultant. Stock trader. Web Developer. Wooden Kayak maker. Coffee Shop Owner. Hairdresser. Professional quilter. Massage therapist. Realtor. Personal Chef. Internet millionare. Artisan cake baker. Seriously.
Along the way I’ve invested an even greater amount of time trying to fit myself into the molds of the jobs I’ve had: first the Coast Guard, then public safety, then the I.T. world. Especially with the last few jobs I started, I realized I could have a very successful & lucrative career if I just applied myself and ‘stuck with it’ this time. And each time, I would dig into it with gusto for a few months, only to find I kept running into the same wall: it just didn’t interest me that much. It felt like so much hard work all the time. Like something you know you’re supposed to enjoy but really don’t.
Objections would arise: there is sooooo much to learn. I would have to invest so much of my personal time in this. I’d have to rebuild my career from the bottom. And after 10 years invested in my current profession, this was incredibly disheartening. To quote my mentor Martha Beck, I have WAY too much time and money invested in this job I hate to quit now. Personally I think once I realized many of these wouldn’t be an easy path to financial independence, my interest faded.
Well, this September I finally got up the courage to enroll in Life Coach Training. And after having a few months to settle into it, i’m ecstatic to say I have FOUND my TRUE calling! This is IT, baby. And I’ve noticed something different from all the other wrong turns on this journey: YES i have so much to learn, and YES in a way i’m starting from scratch, but here’s the difference. I can’t WAIT to start! Can’t WAIT to work on it! It feels juicy & delicious, & I am loving the process.
It reminds me of one of my favorite quotations by Barbara Sher: While working as a counselor she noticed that most depressed people don’t need long term therapy so much as they need a reason to get out of BED in the morning. It may have been a LONG long journey for me, but I found my reason. And now that i’m here, I know it was worth every step.